Friday, August 20, 2010

How come men never get looked down at when they get caught cheating?

How come whenever a man is caught cheating he isn't the one who takes all the blame? Why is it that the other woman takes all the responsibility for the relationship when the man was just as bad if not worse seeing how he let something like that go on? Just curious after seeing all these stars get caught cheating and then everyone blames the other women completely but just slaps the men on the hand and says ';they have an addiction'; or that ';boys will be boys'; bull crap? I'm not saying the other woman isn't to blame but seeing how the man is putting his family and everything on the line shouldn't he get equally blamed too???How come men never get looked down at when they get caught cheating?
Somehow society thinks a women should have more values and morals, I have no idea why this is the case. You would expect a man to behave with just as much integrity.How come men never get looked down at when they get caught cheating?
I'll give you a second name. Jesse James. I have heard nobody say anything bad about his mistresses (h#ll, they media even showed the one sympathy that got played)

Pretty much everybody thinks Jesse James is a complete idiot, and I've haven't heard anybody pulling punches on that.
In a relationship where at least one of the persons is ';cheating';, it's a shared responsibility and I haven't seen it otherwise. If a single woman goes out with a married man, they are both at fault. If a single man goes out with a married woman, ditto.
Because a cheating woman is 1,000 times worse. If a man cheats, he cannot tell the wife that she is mother of his child. Therefore, his cheating does little or no harm. However, when a woman cheats, she can and will tell the husband that he is the father. Therefore, her cheating is horrible and is a huge injustice.
i do not see the men getting away with anything look at the hell the golfer went Thur and is going through .but when i guy gets lucky he is a stud but the girl put out and is looked down at .that is the why it is.and ya i am glad i am a guy.
you can thank our society. Women still make only 70 cents for every dollar a man makes in the same field with the same experience. I know-its hypocritical but currently thats the way it is.
What planet have you been living on for the last 6 months? Have you seen the beating that Tiger has taken in the media, financially, ...?
Tiger Woods is a prime example of why WOMEN want attention and try to become famous off the backs of stars by dropping the bombs, and not always telling the complete truth.

Nobody really knows what goes on in someone's marriage. They can look perfectly fine on the outside, but when you get them behind closed doors, it's a different story all together.

Just because his wife is hot, doesn't mean that she isn't a *****. It doesn't mean she wasn't lacking in support for her husband through things, etc...I don't know the inner workings of Tiger's marriage nor anyone else's but mine and neither do any of us. We get one sided stories from our friends that are usually told in a way to slant blame on the other spouse when in fact we in the lease should take some responsibility for their infidelity.

If people minded their own business, tended to their own marriages, paid attention to their spouses verbal and non-verbal communication...there would be a lot less infidelity to begin with.
1 name; Tiger Woods. You're an idiot if you think no one has talked badly about the incident(s).
The women who cheated with Tiger were just as much to blame as him, if not worse, knowing that he is a married man. These women who cheated with Tiger have no pride or self esteem - they obviously have no self worth and Tiger was obviously NOT choosy who he had sex with. Very Sad!

Tigers wife is definitely a victim of a man with absolutely no self control or shame.
sleeping around (when you're a man) is cool. it makes you a pimp and a rebel, they're ';bad boys'; and women go for that. women like the riskiness of being a mistress. but they're looked at as whores. what kind of a woman would sleep with a married man?! how dare she! (i guess society expects women to have more decency and more morals than men) but men do it so much that people just assume thats how they are, and its normal for them to do.
I think they are both equally to blame and they deserve eachother, except in the case where the woman is innocent and has no clue because she has been lied to. But I think men are looked down upon esp. since many woman sacrifice career and their lives to raise his children and when a woman seduces a married man (which does happen) and she knows his married and with kids, she's just a ______, just like him. Hence they deserve eachother. And it's bad because the STD rate is 1 in 4 has an STD.
People can and do get angry at their boyfriends for cheating on them and a lot of them leave them. And this is harsh for a lot of people to find out, but if you don't get mad at your boyfriend for cheating, he'll lose respect for you.
The man is primarily to blame, and so is his partner. When a partner cheats there is a marriage problem not a husband or wife who cheats problem but a joint marriage problem. The affair is only a symptom a much deeper issue in the relationship. I have counseled too many couples to believe in innocent spouses - there are virtually none. The cheater and their partner both played a role in the affair. Frankly I could care less about the other woman or the other man in some cases - they are only a symptom and if it wasn't them it would be someone else.

two examples:

A guy works 12-16 hours a day earning a good living while his wife is home with two kids and hardly has any adult time with her husband. Is he innocent when she falls for a neighbor who does have to time to make her feel special? or did he fail in his obligation to her too?

Another couple married for many years. She decides the marriage was a mistake and cuts off any intimacy. After 5 years of living separately in the same home, he has an affair with one of his graduate students. She finds out and files divorce claiming adultery. Is she innocent? Or was she the first to violate the wedding vows?

Here is a rare innocent spouse story: Man marries a woman who had used drugs in past but had been clean for 2 years. They marry have a son and after 4 years she annouces that while she likes her marriage - a sober life cannot compete with the drug life she knew and loved and she has decided to return to the streets of the city. She leaves the child with him and walks out of their lives to be addict in DC.

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